Xiao Ming is a very popular child at home. When Xiao Ming was very young, his mother arranged a separate bedroom for Xiao Ming. But Xiao Ming is still small, he is also very afraid of the dark, parents also understand very well, so mother always in Xiao Ming sleep with Xiao Ming in the bedroom, tell Xiao Ming a bedtime story.
Over time, Xiaoming also formed the habit of listening to stories before bedtime. But when Xiaoming grows up, he still pesters his mother to listen to the story. Until Xiaoming 13 years old will still ask his mother to tell Xiaoming bedtime story every day.
The family originally thought is the child childhood fear, therefore may accompany the child more, tells the child the bedtime story. But when the child grows up, the parents slowly don't think so.
They feel that telling stories to their children at this time will help their children's bad habits, so at the age of 13, regardless of the child's opposition resolutely ended to tell the story to the child, but the child cannot bear this.
Every day the child haunts his parents and cries every day, when the parents realize their little bedtime story. What serious consequences for the child. So sometimes we need to quit some of our kids'critical periods.
Xiao Ming in the story is because the parents did not withdraw from the child's bedroom in time. so that children develop bad habits. When a child is young, we can all understand, but when a child is five, he should cultivate the habit of sleeping alone.
Afraid of black parents can understand, can accompany the child for a while, but when the child adapts, the parent must leave immediately, because we want the child to be a brave child. Can take the child to some science and technology museum and so on, help the child to understand why turn off the light, will become dark, why to turn off the light when sleeping? So that the child is easy to understand, and it is easy to accept a person to sleep.
When children go to primary school there will be some of their own little secrets, there will be some of their own little toys, children will be placed in their own room, this time parents will learn to respect their children, everyone needs to be respected, children are no exception, we cannot ask every child's everything.
Children have their own private space, children will feel that they are respected, and they are an independent individual at home. Children will also develop the good habit of respecting others.
Children 15 years old can be alone to clean up the housework, do not worry about our parents. Some parents may still be worried that their children have never cleaned up their own household chores. But we have to understand that the children are also slowly growing up, which of us did not come from the childhood? We also have to clean up the housework ourselves, then the children also have to clean up the housework themselves later. What if the kids mess up the house when we're not at home?
So we have to let the children clean up the housework alone, and we don't interfere. We believe that every child will clean up their own housework, every child is a very good child.
When the child is 18, he may face a voluntary college entrance examination. Parents are then leaving their children's personal choices. Because no matter what choice the child made, it is his own thing, if we intervene, the child later feel that his school is not good, may also resent the parents, may be estranged from the parents.
So we want to withdraw from the child's personal choice, this is not only to respect the child, but also to let the child know that he has grown up, he can have his own choice, parents can respect his choice, parents do not interfere with the child's choice, the child will have adult consciousness, will have self-consciousness, will do some adult things on their own.
Do you remember all this? Be sure to quit these critical periods when the child is in due course, because the child is growing up slowly, we cannot always accompany the child, we also have to let the child handle some things alone, believe that under our letting go, the child can also do better, even better than before.